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Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so.
Everyone has that one person in their lives, be it their circle of friends, co-workers, colleagues, peers, or family members, that talks all of the time and yet have not one original thought. The person that believes that they are the innovators, and beat to a “new” drum (with recycled sticks). The best is when they jump on the band wagon and their sole mission is to be the best. A mission that is smothered with over compensation that is visible by the originators. Everyone can spot out the fake! It is a like a bad Disney episode about the socially awkward kid attempting to fit in, without the morally sound ending. The ultimate horror is when this person is not stopped because of the fear of hurting their feelings. The damage is being done, saying something can either result in one of two ways:
1. They recognize their behavior and change it.
2. They get defensive and stop talking to you.
Option #2 doesn’t sound too bad if they refuse to grow up and change.
At the end of the day we live and we learn. Perhaps it is time they grew up!
This week was out of this world. Keeping true to my challenge I took a risk, a risk, to go after what I wanted and not limit myself. My fear was allowing others in. So this week I opened myself up to new people and ideas and it payed off. I learned so much about myself and others by allowing a layer of my walls to come tumbling down. I can declare challenge number one, of not being extremely guarded and stand off-ish a success!
As part of “This Summer Could Change Your Life” I have decided to tackle on the challenges and fears that can limit my personal growth. On Monday I decided to take this on, however, I could not think of what my first challenge should be. In my mind it should have been something spectacular to set the tone for the rest of the summer. Nevertheless, life has a funny way of giving you the things that you want, but not in the way you expect them.
I have an extremely difficult time accepting that I am wrong. If you know me than you know that I love being right. I will find a way to prove that I am right no matter what. Today was no different.
As the temperature soared into the 90’s so did my temper. The entire time at work I was worrying about my dog Gizmo. The hot weather plus his long and extremely thick hair is not a good combination. I worried as the day went by that I would get home and he would be extremely sick, even though I left him in the coolest part of the basement with a fan. I worry way too much.
I asked my brother to come and check up on him. After some attitude, from his end, he agreed mind you I watched his dog this weekend. I sensed and attitude, but thinking back on it, it was probably me projecting my attitude onto him.
Once he agreed the rest of my day went by little bit smoother. Although, the nagging thought of whether he would or wouldn’t check up on him stayed like an unwanted guest.
After the work day concluded I went home to find my dog as vibrant and as happy as ever. However, I saw that the dog did not have a bowl of water. This upset me beyond belief because my brother said he would give him water. I was so mad.
The anger subsided for the time being.
Later on when my brother stopped by and he came downstairs I attacked him . It felt so out of character I went off like some ghetto baby mom and her deadbeat baby daddy. It was horrible. I dropped the F-bomb like it was nobody’s business. We argued it was epic. Maury and Jerry Springer would have been proud. Then he left. After 5 minutes passed and the temperature and my attitude dropped I realized how mean I truly was, especially when he apparently did show up! So I swallowed my pride and recognized how wrong I was and apologized. Two big firsts for me!!! I try not to be wrong, and apologizing euuwww so not me. However, this was one instance that I knew I needed to take one for the team, for my family. I must admit even though it was tough for me I realized that I probably ruined my brothers afternoon over nothing. Even though I apologized via text, which is a first step for me, it made my brother and I closer. Hell he invited me to go out to the bar, I say that’s a step up!
So today I learned that being wrong is not a bad thing its a part of life. I declare this one unforeseen challenge that taught me about the beauty of family and close relationships whether it be with a family member, a friend, or a significant other. Never let a bowl of water ruin someone else’s day. ;)
You think she loves you, when its only me you think she cares when its only me. Everything you give her is just a waste I’m the one who should win this race. You say you love me but do you care? I love you more than you love yourself. Your breaking down without her here, she’s on your mind when I’m near. I can not fight when she’s not real. Please don’t make me choose between a battle and your heart. Please tell be she will be gone and we won’t fall apart.
“This Summer Could Change Your Life” is a story that Seventeen Magazine published in their 2011 summer issue. The article captures different stories about young women who on their summer vacations went on their own coming of age adventures. Each story explores the fears that we as young women/ women have about body image, love, stepping out of our comfort zones, and general fears of life. So I have decided to take this on as a challenge. I am going to do all of the things that I fear and explore, as well as discover, the different sides of myself as a person. I propose that all of my friends take on this challenge. Life is short so why not go out and conquer our fears instead of letting them conquer us.
P.S I will be documenting this, so prepare. lol
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